Love Letter

 

Dear Writers —

… especially writers whose medium is fiction: genre, literary, role-playing games, plays, movies, etc.

What we do is hard. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Novelists especially. 80,000-120,000 words to sustain a transformation, to imbue a world, to make characters–even walk-ons–live, breathe and sometimes die between the ink and the page in a cohesive, meaningful, never-boring heartfelt way. All the while knowing that what you see and feel and strain to put down is never ever what the reader will get out of it.

That’s the blessing and the curse of the written word, or the game scenario. Because the reader isn’t us, they can never experience the story the way we do. But we also can’t experience it the way they do. And sometimes readers and players are amazingly generous with their buy-in. Fandoms are proof of that.

All creators live with constant doubt and frustration and time constraints and the intervenings of real life. It’s hard to chew through it, swallow, and continue on to The End. Overwhelmingly difficult sometimes.

So, thanks. Thank you to all the writers of my favorite stories, poems, movies and games. Thanks for slogging on through the long process of getting your work published, or out to your gaming groups. My brain and spirit love to roll around in what you create.

You’ve made my world better. You inspire me to be a better writer, and a better human.

All the love,
Kath

 

Open Letter

 

From Me to You

From Me to You

 

An Open Letter to the people who have shared their stories and their lives with me lately–mostly strangers–but also a few friends.

 

Dearest Fellow Human –

You may know me, or we may have only met briefly in the Starbucks line, or through a drop-in flashpoint in a game, or from a comment made in a Facebook group we’re both in, or standing in the sunshine on the sidewalk.  But that’s okay.  However we came together, you were having a hard time, and you needed a friend.  It’s good we talked.  I’m glad that when we parted you felt like you were heard and supported.  I’m not always good at listening, so I’m glad I could be there for you in that time and place.

A lot of people I know are having a hard time right.  They’ve lost loved ones, are struggling with health issues, have too little money, feel out of control, fear the future, struggle with who they are, or simply are so damn tired all the time.  You’re not alone in feeling this way.  Truth.

After we parted, I wished I could have given you more.  I wanted to wrap you in a warm blanket, hand you a mug of hot cocoa or lovely tea, read you a good story, and let you know things can be okay sometimes, even if they’re not right now.

There are a few things I wish I could have shared with you, things I think you don’t know how to believe in, or are forgetting just now.  And I don’t want to sound pushy, but I hope that you will believe me, even just for a little while, as I tell you:

  1. You are worth loving just as you are right now.   You Are Worth Loving Just As You Are.
  2. Your story matters.  You matter.   I want to hear your story, in whatever way you want to share it.
  3. We can’t save other people, no matter how much we want to. We can only love them for as long as they’re in our lives, near or far.  The only person you can truly save/fix/change is yourself, and that’s where we need to start.
  4. You can only do your best. Some days your best will be excellent, and some days you’ll feel it’s not so much.  Celebrate the good days, and forgive yourself the hard ones.
  5. You’re allowed to feel whatever you are feeling, even the ones that others think are ugly.  
  6. It’s okay to ask for help. Some people won’t be able to do much, but others will.  We all suck at asking, but everyone needs a hand or a hug sometimes.
  7. Be kind to yourself and others as much as you can. You deserve kindness, and so do they.  Sometimes kindness is hard to come by, but give and receive what you can, as you can. 

 

I don’t know if we’ll ever see each other again, Fellow Human, but thank you for sharing your time and your story with me, and for including me in your life for a while.  I hope it gave you at least the seeds of what you needed.  I wish you gentle days and restful nights, and all happiness in the days to come.

 

With love,

The Stranger In The Coffee Shop / Online / In That Game You Love / At The Park